Ok look even though it’s been said a million times before,
Having
your first period
does NOT
make you
a woman.
I’m saying this because I’ve heard a recent surge around me in people saying girls “become a woman” when that happens and just…no?
I was 11. Fortunately I knew vague stuff about it before it happened to me. But for the most part, all I really got was “I’m an adult now because this means I can have kids.”
I was not an adult. I was a child. I still played with Polly Pockets. I had a 52-piece Littlest Pet Shop collection, and the goat was named Goatita because that’s how my brain worked. I wrote about my seventeen different crushes in purple pen in the first diary I ever owned without a lock. I used text abbreviations while writing by hand. I held royal tournaments with my Playmobil knights and had jousts and battles and feasts like in the books I read.
I had no emotional maturity. I had very little mental maturity. I couldn’t have in any way handled having a relationship. All I had was extra unwanted chest material, and a body that bled every few weeks, and the misconception that I ought to now be an adult when I was the farthest thing from one.
I was not a woman. I was a child. And that’s why arguments about periods=adulthood just make me mad, because the two are not equal and should never be equated.
Honestly the whole concepts of periods being the defining factor of womanhood needs to stop, not only because of the b.s. above but because of the transphobia b.s. as well. All a period means is that your body is doing a thing. It has no say on your identity.
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