I didn’t know Mr. T pityed fool’s that weren’t woke, but that’s awesome. #respect
“I think about my father being called ‘boy’, my uncle being called ‘boy’, my brother, coming back from Vietnam and being called ‘boy’. So I questioned myself:“What does a black man have to do before he’s given the respect as a man?” So when I was 18 years old, when I was old enough to fight and die for my country, old enough to drink, old enough to vote, I said I was old enough to be called a man. I self-ordained myself Mr. T so the first word out of everybody’s mouth is “Mr.” That’s a sign of respect that my father didn’t get, that my brother didn’t get, that my mother didn’t get.“
why do russians end their sentences with) while texting. ??
Yeah I was wondering the same thing! Can anyone explain?
ooh i’m glad to explain this! see this smiling face 🙂 ? well! in Russia we somehow ended up not using the eye part. so if someone texts you with lots of “))“s in the end of their message, they are just trying to be friendly and smile! same with (, if a russian person ends their message like that((, it means they are sad. hope that helped!)
Dear people who say statements like the above scare away good men,
It fucking doesn’t.
When I started dating my current boyfriend we talked for 6 hours on our first date and 7 hours on our second. We talked about a shit ton of different topics, and one of those topics was politics and the #metoo movement. We talked about sexual harassment and sexual assault.
Every step along the way towards us having sex he asked for my consent. The first day we actually had sex he made sure I was ready and checked in on me several times to make sure I was still enjoying myself. He was amazing.
I had men who were trying to flirt with me grab at me before I even knew who they were. I’ve had creepy old men decide giving me a shoulder massage while I was sitting down the perfect way they could introduce themselves. That is the type of touching we want to stop.
Any of the guys that are scared off by women saying “don’t touch us unless we ask” are the exact type of guys that need to learn about consent, women’s bodily autonomy and personal space.
If you are concerned that becoming friends with a women in the Me Too era will read to someone accusing you of sexual harassment, you need to rethink how you interact with women.
I have a bunch of guy friends, and none of them are afraid I’m going to accuse them of anything. Do you know why? We are friends. We treat each other with respect. Any of them can hug me goodbye or put their arm around me and I know they won’t touch me inappropriately. But when we first met that wasn’t true. We built a friendship of trust.
I am a hugger, I like hugging people. My friends know this about me, but when I meet new people I always ask them if it is okay that I hug them. I have had people say no, and I respect that and do not hug them.
It is not hard to ask for consent.
Looking back on my first date with my ex, not asking for consent is a danger sign.
He’s tall, I’m short. We met online, then got together at a local Chili’s for our first date. In the parking lot, walking to the restaurant, he put an arm around me and said something like, “I just want to try” or “Let me see.” Then he leaned down and kissed me.
I didn’t want a kiss. (I didn’t realize at the time that I’m asexual, but that’s neither here nor there.) But I was shocked, and women are socially conditioned to be pleasing and accommodating – to go along with whatever men want – so I just laughed it off like it was a cute test to see how our difference in height would work.
But through the six years we were together, he never wanted my consent.
Oh, he wanted me to say I’d have sex with him, even when I didn’t want to. He harassed, guilted, bargained, and intimidated me into “consenting” because I was his girlfriend/wife and that’s what girlfriends/wives do – they spread their legs for their husbands.
So please, learn from my mistakes: If he doesn’t look for your consent from day 1, run like hell and don’t look back. He’s not worth it.