i guess the one thing i’ve taken away from the kavanaugh hearing is that every woman has a story. watching dr ford talk was terrible since her pain- and the constancy of it- is clear, but talking about it later with friends, with coworkers, it brings out your own horrors.
my coworker in her fifties told me about a boy in her high school who forcibly undressed her in the backseat of a car as another boy drove her home. her shirt was unbuttoned the entire way down, her bra out and pants unzipped, and she didn’t notice until after she’d run inside her home when the car stopped. i told her about my ex who i had to knee in the stomach once when he was drunk out of his mind and refused to take no for an answer. i told her how i worry about his current girlfriend.
i dated that boy for another two months. my coworker still talked to both guys the following monday at school like nothing happened. her husband thinks dr ford is lying and out to ruin a man’s career.
believe women. believe survivors. having a story shouldn’t be the goddamn norm.
This is from the slut walk. One of the arguments is that girls ask for rape because they wear slutty clothes, short skirts, tight, low-cut tops. This girl is an example of the fact that rape victims can look like anyone, you, me, this girl. Rapists. Dont. Discriminate.
I promised a long time ago that I’d reblog this whenever I saw it on my dash. No regrets, it breaks my heart every single time.
an incredibly important message, rape is rape. no one is ever asking for it. a woman has the right to dress how ever they want – it is society that identifies risque dressing as ‘asking for it’, and in my opinion, that way of thinking needs to be diminished.
Seriously if you see this and don’t reblog it, I have NO respect for you
You can literally invent a fictional man in a sentence long Tumblr post as a rhetorical device whose only character trait is that he’s an abuser and some dude will still try to argue that he’s misunderstood and the woman he hurt is a bitch.
you could share an article where the only information known about someone’s abuser is that he was abusive and some dude will still argue that she’s a liar and even if she wasn’t lying she probably deserved it and he is the real victim
you could say “I was raped” without even identifying your rapist, not accusing anyone, just straight up saying you’re a survivor, and some dude will send you hate mail talking bout “false accusations ruin men’s lives!! how dare you, you lying selfish cunt!”
lmao, like it doesn’t even surprise me anymore. they will literally defend any abuser or rapist just for being an abuser or rapist. doesn’t matter if they know him or if he’s even real, cause it’s not even about him– these dudes are literally just telling on themselves.
Something in the Kavernaugh or however you spell it, accusation got me thinking when a white house lawyer said if they can take down a scotus nominee with a rape allegation than no man is safe. They protect that random guy so he’ll protect them when the woman he harmed comes calling. Its like a sick game of pay forward but instead of coffee its being protected from the horrible shit they’ve done to women.
“As their press duties have continued, Munn said, many of her co-stars have canceled scheduled interviews with her; another, she said, walked out of an interview when the issue of the cut scene came up. When Munn decided to give a comment to the Times, she told Smith, she reached out to all of her co-stars privately to encourage them to make statements of their own. “I wanted them to not be blindsided the way I was blindsided, and I encouraged them to put out a statement once the L.A. Times reached out to us,“ Munn said. “I was surprised that none of them did. Again that’s their prerogative. Right now the reality is that there will be people who wear Time’s Up pins and say they support Time’s Up, [but] there will be people in Time’s Up who aren’t really down with the cause.””
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I… actually have no idea what the context of this is, even after reading a large chunk of the article. Help?
Ok, so Shane Black hired a friend of his who is a convicted sex offender and didn’t tell any of the cast about it and Olivia was piiiiissed and she insisted on having her scene with him cut from the movie and she made a big fuss and some of her costars didn’t really back her play and avoided media with her because they didn’t want any political heat, so she feels hung out to dry.
@smallswingshoes From what I understand, Shane Black CLAIMED he didn’t know why his friend was convicted. He said he was told that his friend was chatting with a young relative and was showering her with compliments and telling her she was beautiful and sexy in order to boost her confidence. The truth was he was chatting with a fourteen year old girl very explicitly. Whether Black knew that or not is irrelevant. He has cast this man in multiple productions, never alerted anyone, and was helping make him a smalltime star.
He never gave anyone any choice in the matter and stars have a different level of power. By making his a small-time action actor, he was making a lot of children look up to a man convincted of preying on kids. It’s really sick.
Fuck anyone who says rape culture doesn’t exist. Stories like this make me hate America more and more for treating women and girls with such dehumanization.
They literally gave a rape victim’s address out to the rapist himself. Words cannot describe how disgusted I am with this country’s justice system. There’s something very sinister about American’s desire to protect rapists.
Why are they calling a 12 year old a woman?!
This story is even worse than it looks… Apparently the State started this because she made an application for food stamps??
Please don’t forget this election season that circuit and district judges are also elected officials.
Serena Williams standing up for herself while referee accuses her of cheating. She had been docked points for coaching that didn’t happen.
This is so….so much deeper than what’s on the surface.
This umpire basically accused her of cheating! And penalized her for his accusations. This is touchy for Serena being that they have been conspiring against her for the longest with the whole drug testing. She’s had it with them opposing her with no merit or basis! SHE HAS NEVER CHEATED which has been proven time after time with those negative results. and to accuse her of that during this game is why she is extremely and rightfully emotional! The pain and humiliation in her voice says it all. It really hurt her for him to accuse her of that so publicly too. He announced it during the match on the mic to everyone and now that’s like a stain on this moment forever. That’s why she’s demanding he apologize to her and say it over the loudspeaker. To set the record straight that she didn’t do what he alleged.
Honestly she has faced the most her entire career and her mental fortitude to endure it and still be dominant is a miracle. ALWAYS A QUEEN
(this match was painful & angering to watch)
What’s even more annoying is that later on in the game, she got even more frustrated (both due to this and the fact that her and her opponent were playing INCREDIBLY GOOD GAMES!) and smashed her racket, and was docked points. When she called the umpire a thief, he decided to make a power play and cost her a whole game.
Not only did he try to steal this moment from Serena, he also cast a shadow over what should’ve been an AMAZING victory for 20 year old Naomi Osaka, a Haitian-Japanese player who’s the first Japanese Player to win a Grand Slam tournament.
This umpire literally cast a huge stain over this moment for both of these women, all because a black woman spoke to him in a tone he didn’t like. Never in tennis has there been such a severe penalization for something like being called a “thief” when there’s a well-documented history of male tennis players saying much worse.
The tournament, held in Queens, New York, has been plagued by an unrelenting heat wave with temperatures soaring upward of 96 degrees Tuesday, with a heat index making it feel like over 100 degrees at times.
The players were given a 10-minute break to cool off and rehydrate, during which Alizé Cornet put on a fresh shirt. When she returned to the court, she realized her shirt was on backward. She quickly took off the shirt and put it back on, prompting umpire Christian Rask to hit her with a code violation.
Women’s Tennis Association rules dictate that players may only remove shirts while off-court. No such rules apply to male players, who took their shirts off frequently Tuesday, to deal with the blistering heat.
Our society has a number of loveable buffoons who fool around and are excused from acting like prats because they’re funny. They might be rubbish at most things but as long as their banter is flowing, we put up with it.
These types are almost exclusively men. You don’t get hilarious, idiotic women being lorded as icons of our culture. Diane Abbott is dismissed as a cretin while Boris Johnson is a joker.
Which begs the question: is conscious male incompetence a form of misogyny?
If you labour the point that you can’t cook, then chances are that you won’t be made to cook. If you make a hash out of doing the laundry or hoovering, you’re forcing someone else to take over.
Few have the patience to watch someone do a job badly over and over again and so often, they’ll just take it upon themselves to do your chores as well as their own. Emotional labour is doubled when you’ve got an incompetent clown on your hands.
I was recently listening Semi Circles, a BBC radio comedy starring Paula Wilcox, first broadcast in 1989.
It’s about a housewife who recently wakes up to the fact that she’s spent the past eight years being a slave to her kids and nice-but-emotionally-dim husband.
Part of this awakening is the realisation that she does all the housework because her husband is crap at it. Left alone, he makes inedible food. He lets the kids stay up well beyond their bedtime. He leaves the house a tip.
He doesn’t even try to do a good job because he fears that if he’s too good at these jobs, his wife will make him do more of them.
Put these garbage men in the garbage where they belong.
I went and checked the original source and it’s worse. While most of the comments get the problem (the lying, not the eggs) some of them just cannot see that this shit is actually a big honking warning sign for bigger shit. A loving person is not capable of doing this.
He literally puts his mere convenience over her actual well being. This guy thought up and executed a plan where she has to do *all* the work (because of course it wasn’t just this one specific thing) while he watches her tire herself out from the sidelines. Imagine this going on for *years*. …now imagine this with kids. You think this guy cares if she gets off during sex? Would he take care of her if she were to get sick? Would he ever lift a finger if he could get away not doing it?
She can’t trust a word he says and he doesn’t give a shit about her needs. It’s not about the *eggs*.
Sorry to reblog from you, stranger, but this commentary is all very good. I especially appreciate the emphasized statement that “a loving person is not capable of doing this.” That line is going to rattle around my brain for ages — the words feel good in my mouth. How you’ve said it is just so right.
I want to add some of OP’s further comments on the thread she made:
“To be fair, I have pretty high standards for cleanliness and his idea of clean vastly differs from mine and honestly, that’s okay! But now I’m starting to seriously wonder if he sabotaged cleaning, too, just to get me to do it. Dishes, for instance. He will wash half and leave a nasty sink full of the rest, claiming he’ll do them later. This drives me nuts, so I just do them. Often he will leave crusted on shit on then, too, so okay, I’ll just do them, right? Now because of the egg business, I’m seeing it as malicious.”
→ The husband is lazy. He seemingly commits to housework, only to bail partway through, and doesn’t even put in the effort required to do the job right in the first place.
“Yes, he sucks at dishes and laundry to the point he is banned from doing them. He will leave clothes in the washer overnight and doesnt separate anything to the point I’ve had many white clothes ruined. My favorite white brassiere is now pink due to his bullshit.”
→ The husband is inconsiderate of his wife’s property, even that which is well-loved. Could his repeated failure to learn how to do this task have been a ruse? Did he anticipate his banishment from laundry duty? OP now has to genuinely wonder about this.
“I’m starting to think he does things wrong on purpose now just to get me to do it. Another example! My car. For a while my driver side door wouldn’t open from the outside, so I had to crawl through the passenger side. He ordered a handle and kept putting it off for WEEKS. Finally, he says his hands are too big to do it, so I had to do it.”
→ The husband makes excuses for himself that cast him as an unwitting victim to fate, with the implication that he would totally do [action], if only he could. He distances himself from any possibility of blame.
Obviously, anonymous forum posts are taken with a grain of salt — we, as readers, will never know for sure if OP is real. That’s not a concern for me, though. Like I don’t care. The fact is that if one assumes this is all true, it is very obvious that the poster’s husband is a perfect example of maliciously feigned incompetence. He’s manipulative and lazy to the point of cruelty, expecting his wife to work while he fails to lift a single functioning finger. The statement that “he likes her eggs better” isn’t cute like some have stated in the replies to this post; it’s just another excuse that walls him off from criticism, a bullshit reason he pulled out of his ass to make her feel guilty and unreasonable for being upset.
The absurdity of the situation when taken at face value — lying about eggs, getting mad about making eggs, even just the reality of deviled eggs (an inherently silly prep style) being someone’s favorite food — extends an air of the absurd to the wife’s concerns, and to others’ warnings. I have noticed several comments to the tune of, “These people are all mad about eggs? What a joke! How oversensitive. That’s just how men are; this is just what marriage looks like.”
It’s fucked up, is what it is.
…deviled egg lady, if you’re truly out there somewhere, I hope you told your husband to make his own goddamn eggs from now on. It’s literally the least he can do.
@manthedog
“It’s literally the least he can do.”
we all just witnessed a fucking murder and it was beautiful.
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